And I was doing so well.....

Ok...It has been a couple of days since this happened but I'm still amazed how insensitive people can be. The really hard part is that the person who said this to me is ONE OF US!! She has been going through fertility treatments for a year and knows all about what my husband and I have gone through. I know I have been on Lupron for a week and that will make me more sensitive but this still felt like I had been kicked in the stomach.

I was at a birthday party on Saturday for a friend of ours. The birthday boy and his wife have been going through treatments but were on a supposed break over the past few months while they were in the process of purchasing a house. Well after all the "Surprise" screams the wife came over to myself and two other friends. She proceeded to rub her belly and have a huge smile on her face staring right at me. My first thought was that they had started treatment up again and was feeling bloated. Boy was I wrong!! She was smiling and saying that she was 3 months pregnant. She looked at me...rubbed my shoulder and said "You'll get there soon!". That stupid, condescending look that you get when you are the maid of honor in a wedding and people look at you with their head tilted and say "You'll be next!"

I swear to you I couldn't breath. I smiled and hugged her with a big congratulations and I am really happy for them...They have been struggling. But I know If the tables were turned I would have told her earlier in the week or at least when we were alone. Not in front of 40 of our closest friends. This is actually something we had talked about. We both knew how hard it would have been on the other person if one of us had been pregnant first which is what I figured would have happened. One of us was going to be the one who was pregnant first. I'm ok with that part but not how she handled it.

I proceeded to hunt down my husband to see if he knew about her pregnancy and he said he had just found out too. When he had seen the look on my face he realized how shocked and upset I was. He chose that moment to inform me (I guess so I wouldn't be so shocked) that another one of our friends was pregnant. I think he figured if I had forewarning I wouldn't be as upset. But I still hadn't recovered from the first shock. I had to walk very quickly to the ladies room in order to not fall apart in front of 40 other people.

I'm still feeling like I have been through the ringer. I'm better but this is going to take some time to recover. I'm not sure what I will say to her the next time I see her. I am happy for them...I just don't think she handled the situation the right way.